the family of God,
as the bible calls us…
you know, children of the same Father,
together as one,
in the Household of God,
Brothers, Sisters, Mothers, Fathers…
AND Paul says the MEN in the family are called to be
responsible as leaders over others,
and are given this instruction:
“Treat younger men as brothers,
older women as mothers,
and younger women as sisters,
with ABSOLUTE purity.”
So, I wonder…
if a single christian man flirts sexually,
or makes out with
a single sister in the Lord,
WITH no commitment to
or without any intentions of
ever marrying them…
is that considered
a form of spiritual incest?
If someone is married,
and doing these same things with a woman,
other than his wife,
wouldn’t that be considered adultery?
We have to hate the ways of the world…
and we have to be different…holy like God.
When we think of incest,
in the natural,
it makes us sick.
We hate it, right?
We can’t even comprehend it.
How could a father or brother do that to a daughter or sister…?
But, I see it all the time in the body of Christ…
and no one talks about it. No one ever addresses it.
In the natural, when there is incest,
which is a horrendous abuse of power,
it causes confusion for the woman.
Power used correctly is ‘taking responsibility’.
Power abused by a parent or sibling,
is a double irresponsibility.
Not only is an incestuous relative betraying the child’s trust
and taking advantage of her vulnerability and dependence – that is betrayal enough.
But also he is placing on her an impossible burden.
How can she ‘tell on a family member’ without betraying her own sense of loyalty
and her need for her relative’s protection’?
The very people to whom she would run as protectors,
if she were assaulted by some other man,
has become the very people from whom she must run.
Small wonder that the internal conflict
produces deep and lasting emotional damage like self-hatred, shame, guilt….
Heaven forbid, if the family members end up having children together…
they will most likely be severely impaired mentally.
How much more so in the Family of God? What fruit is this type of relationship producing in the body of Christ?
Just like in the world,
it is a selfish attempt of a man
to satisfy his desires
by using and abusing his authority over those he is called to cover,
over sisters and mothers.
Some of the men even use the grace gifts given to them by God for ministry,
as the VERY same influence they use to draw women to themselves.
They appear to be safe,
because they seem to love God.
They know the word, but do they follow what it says, the whole counsel of God?
Because, if a man truly loves God, he will be obedient, and
he will honor and protect the women in the family of God, in absolute purity.
His mothers and sisters.
He will have a fear of God concerning this.
He will love those that are weaker than himself,
more than himself. He will lay down his life for others.
But it is not just the men that bear the responsibility.
I also see “christian” women,
that post photos of themselves on social media like Facebook
of themselves in bikinis,
laying on couches,
flirting with “brothers”…
seducing and inappropriate.
But, still teaching the bible…?
One of them I saw recently,
in a video she made, teaching on “Denial”…
honestly, I had to laugh…
because her breasts were hanging out of her shirt.
No man was listening to what she was saying…
and no woman would take her seriously.
She was a lesson in herself, because she was really in some serious denial.
See..women like that are also abusing their power as a woman,
using the sensual beauty God gave them for their husbands…
to draw men to themselves.
It is insecurity and a need for control manifesting.
Same spirits, very similar to a Jezebel and Ahab type situation.
A victim and a perpetrator. In these situations,
you can always look for these things that will be motivating the abuse.
Control, insecurity, seduction, selfishness, pride, lust, anger and hatred…
It needs to stop. We, as the family of God, need to repent…we need to be safe places for one another.
if you are a victim, or playing one, you need to repent and ask God to forgive you for giving your power away. Choose to love and honor who you are in Christ, by surrounding yourself with people that will love you in truth,
and not try to seduce or use you.
If you are a man or woman committing incest with family members,
seducing them for your own benefit…abusing your authority…
then you need to humble yourself, repent and ask God for mercy to change.
“If anyone causes one of these little ones–those who believe in me–to stumble, it would be better for them if a large millstone were hung around their neck and they were thrown into the sea.
You tolerate that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophet. By her teaching she misleads my servants into sexual immorality and the eating of food sacrificed to idols. I have given her time to repent of her immorality, but she is unwilling. So I will cast her on a bed of suffering, and I will make those who commit adultery with her suffer intensely, unless they repent of her ways. I will strike her children dead. Then all the churches will know that I am he who searches hearts and minds, and I will repay each of you according to your deeds.
The body, however, is not meant for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit.
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.
1 Thessalonians 4
Amplified Bible (AMP)
4 Furthermore, [a]brethren, we beg and admonish you in [virtue of our union with] the Lord Jesus, that [you follow the instructions which] you learned from us about how you ought to walk so as to please and gratify God, as indeed you are doing, [and] that you do so even more and more abundantly [attaining yet greater perfection in living this life].
2 For you know what charges and precepts we gave you [[b]on the authority and by the inspiration of] the Lord Jesus.
3 For this is the will of God, that you should be consecrated (separated and set apart for pure and holy living): that you should abstain and shrink from all sexual vice,
4 That each one of you should know how to [c]possess (control, manage) his own [d]body in consecration (purity, separated from things profane) and honor,
5 Not [to be used] in the passion of lust like the heathen, who are ignorant of the true God and have no knowledge of His will,
6 That no man transgress and overreach his brother and defraud him in this matter or defraud his brother in business. For the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we have already warned you solemnly and [e]told you plainly.
7 For God has not called us to impurity but to consecration [to dedicate ourselves to the most thorough purity].
8 Therefore whoever disregards (sets aside and rejects this) disregards not man but God, Whose [very] Spirit [Whom] He gives to you is holy (chaste, pure).
9 But concerning brotherly love [for all other Christians], you have no need to have anyone write you, for you yourselves have been [personally] taught by God to love one another.